How Do I Find My Mr Right?

By on May 25, 2014
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Most of us are familiar with the saying "you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your handsome prince". As lame as it may sound, unless you are incredibly lucky, it's absolutely right.

For myself, never has a truer word been said, as having been single on and off for many years and finally settling down and marrying at the age of 48, I am testament to it! However, I do class myself as a bit of an exception.  Most people are hooked up well before they hit 48 but as I was not, it makes me more versed in the pitfalls and perils of trying to find Mr Right.

So, how exactly do we find our Mr Right?

After years of hit and miss, tag and release, a few bad choices... the list goes on, I decided it was time to get a bit smarter about things. So, instead of just leaving it to fate I realized I needed a plan.  Meeting your beloved, the one who makes your heart beat faster and knees go weak needs structure and perseverance because it's actually a numbers game.

Firstly, you need to be out meeting people and I don't just mean in a dating capacity. Extend your circle of friends and acquaintances. Be your wonderful self around all these people and subtly remind them that you are single and you are open to meeting a decent guy. You will be amazed how many friends or friends of friends know someone single that might just suit you. It's a bit like sales really.  All of your network of friends are your silent sales force working in the background for you. Don't be afraid to make it known that you are single without banging on about it incessantly. If people don't realize you are unattached they won't suggest a potential match.

Secondly, you must know what you are looking for. You need to be precise about what you want but not in an uncompromising way. Some things on your tick sheet are going be deal breakers whereas other things you may be able to be more flexible about. For example, I don't smoke and my deal breaker for my Mr Right was always a smoker. It was an absolute non negotiable for me and to back down on that issue would have been disastrous for me. I simply can't live with a smoker so there would have been no point pretending or hoping I could. Do you see where I am going with this?

Some issues can be taken a little more lightly.  You may really like to play a particular sport and hope to find a partner that does the same. Whilst it sounds really ideal to be doing something you both love it can sometimes cause unnecessary competition within a relationship. It's also healthy to have some separate interests in a relationship too. You don't want to be joined a the hip 24/7. Outside interests help keep a relationship alive and remember Mr Right may just introduce you to a new hobby or sport you had never thought of trying.

Having a plan in your mind about the person you want to be involved with (and sticking to the plan)  will automatically up your chances of long term success in the dating game and in finding your Mr Right.

There are also numerous other ways to meet a potential suitor like online dating, speed dating and so forth. I was fortunate to meet my beloved on the internet so can highly praise the process even if I was a bit skeptical when I started. Online dating has become a very acceptable phenomenon of this era and when conducted correctly it can be incredibly successful. I have dedicated more articles to this topic alone to help newbies get a good start with the process.

Remember, a goal without a plan is just a dream. Formulate your plan and turn your dream into your reality.

If you are serious about committing time to finding your Mr Right then try Find The One Online to ensure you put your best foot forward.

About Moyra Matson

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One Comment

  1. Moyra Matson

    August 20, 2014 at 3:48 am

    Hi Aaron, thanks for your message. We are building a subscription site for this blog currently. Thanks again. Moyra

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