Is Your Perspective Skewed?

By on September 15, 2014
Perspective

I am constantly scanning the internet to find articles that offer good, solid advice that will be of value to my readers. My latest find comes from Michelle Joy Brown via her Ezine Article site. I hope you enjoy the read.

Is Your Perspective Skewed in Relationships?

How we look at things can affect the outcome of any type of communication. Whether you are at home or in the workplace; if our perspective is skewed then we eliminate the opportunity to see things from others' perspectives.

If you have ever had a conversation that ended in an argument, you know exactly what it is like to have two different opinions of an event. Couples are not the only ones who engage in arguments; so do co-workers, employers, customers, businessmen and women, siblings, parents, friends etc. However, have you ever stopped to think about the other persons' views? Most unfortunately do not take the time to stop and think before engaging in a heated battle. If you truly want your relationships to improve, then it is time to allow yourself some time to think about the other person's point of view (they matter too). No one is always right. I laugh writing that, because I personally know people who live their lives thinking that they know it all. Parents, we are especially guilty of this with our children and those younger than us. But, let me challenge you today to take a step back and look at the situation from the other person's perspective. We don't always have to agree with people; but we should be mature enough to give empathy when someone disagrees with us; and open our minds enough to listen to their point-of-view.

My perspective on spirituality for example is totally different from most of those I interact with on a daily basis; yet we have amazing relationships - because I have allowed myself to see things from their perspective, and they have given me the same respect. Now don't get me wrong, we could sit up and argue for days if I allowed it. I could also risk losing some great friends and family members whom I love.

Another example: I had to let an employee go one time due to her lack of timeliness and constant talking on the phone during work hours. I could have yelled at her and told her exactly what I thought about her and her lack of ethics in the workplace. But, respectfully, I discussed with her my needs as her employer and that she was not meeting the needs of the business in a professional manner. Long story short, we are friends today, eight years later. After I let her go, we laughed about it and she continued to respect me and I her. Though I listened to her perspective of why she was always late; and no I did not agree with her reasoning which is why I let her go; I still respected her and listened to her perspective. You don't have to always agree. But you should always give respect; we all want it; especially in the work environment.

If you are in the work place and have those that you despise (I know, such a strong word); take a moment to listen and give some empathy, it's really not that difficult. You don't know everything about everyone anyway; and we are all a product of our environment (those we grew up around). Give people a break and be nice - seriously, find the nice person inside and share it instead of the beast who is always disagreeing when people don't see eye to eye with you. People who appear to be listening have a better chance of getting what they need from their family, friends and co-workers. This is not rocket science; it's simply showing respect, even when you don't want to - to those you interact with on a daily basis.

Keep in mind, if you are typically a beast, others will be shocked and amazed that you actually showed empathy and listened for a change. I have seen people in Corporate America have the worst attitudes and then they wonder why they can't get cooperation from their employees. It is absurd to think that people will give great service in volatile situations. If you don't know how to be nice, look it up on the Internet; it is easier to change than most realize. And by the way, you can teach "an old dog new tricks"! Listen to your co-workers, employees, friends, family etc without judgment, without having an overly strong opinion, just listen.

Be nice, that's all I'm saying for now.

If you are keen on acting on this advice and seeing how it could work for you in a new or existing relationship then you may want to have a look at The Words That Open His Emotional Doorway.

 

 

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